There is something every single person in the world longs for, both consciously and unconsciously. Every person you’ve ever met in your life is after this. They may call it love, they may call it success, they might even call it freedom. It doesn’t matter what they call it, in reality the one true thing they really want is what is called survival.
To give you simple examples for your understanding; when a human being is hungry they are being signaled by the body for more food because they unconsciously want to survive. When they feel cold they are being signaled to find warmth so they can survive and not die. When they are prompted to mate sexually they are being signaled to produce offspring so they can survive through them.
Now, I want us to be clear about a few things about this survival. This is going to be a truth that might be uncomfortable. The number one priority in everything human beings is this concept of survival. Whether they are choosing friends, choosing diets, going to work, or even answering the phone in the morning, they are doing it so that a part of them can survive through that action.
They do everything for it. They pray, they lie, they cheat, they can even kill, just to continue being alive. Beneath everything a human being does is this particular desire called survival. You’re driven by this same desire as well.
Over the years our brains have evolved to prioritize our own needs. We have systems that get triggered when we are hungry, thirsty, lonely, sad or frustrated. We can be taught to be less selfish, and other people can take it to the extremes, but underneath all that will always be the desire to take care of one’s own needs.
Our goal is to stay in alignment with life and being, never to be brought out of existence. This is also how our sense of self is preserved, along with our identity and personality. We can only know and recognize who we are when our own needs are met. We're not wired to truly care about others to the extent that it would reduce our own life.
This is how human beings are built: either we care about ourselves, or we risk being washed away in the human race. This means the power of personal responsibility is what separates those who thrive from those who merely survive in this world. The more you are able to take care of yourself, the better you do. This is why self-care is so trendy.
Did you know that our perception of the world is what we call reality? If yes, then did you know that our perception of the world is actually not reality? It is said that we are missing out on 99% of reality all the time. The capacity of the human consciousness can only experience 1% of what is actual reality.
So, what a human being is wired to do is to keep that 1% perpetuating because, to that human being, it is perceived as 100%. That 1% is our sense of self, our identity, our personality, and it is how we differentiate ourselves from the rest of the world. We hold on to this 1% for dear life, never discovering the other 99% of the world.
He who neglects his own perspective diffuses in the grand scheme of things, and nobody wants that. This means we are required to fan our own flames; hence, our biology is adapted for prioritizing our own survival. No one wants to experience pain; everyone wants to experience pleasure. This means it is within our nature to direct ourselves away from pain and towards pleasure.
One could say we are programmed to seek pleasure and avoid pain. But a good thing to note is that no one is programmed to seek the pleasure of someone else in place of themselves, unless doing so brings even more pleasure to them. No one wants to give up their own life for a complete stranger (You).
I’ll let you know when I finish this topic. See you in the next letter.
